Saturday, April 30, 2011
BOOK REVIEW: Freedom from Toxic Relationships
Author: Avril Carruthers
Publisher: Allen & Unwin
Release Date: May 2011
Toxic relationships can affect you at home and at work - discover the tools you need to leave these painful, destructive relationships behind.
Toxic relationships come in many guises. That's why they're so hard to pick. Often toxic relationships don't entail physical violence so much as a slow erosion of self esteem, a loss of personal identity, or a growing desire to please friends, partners, family members and others who're impossible to please. Many toxic relationships begin early in childhood, or when we start to form our own personal relationships. Even though we find the courage to move on, if the fallout from these relationships is not dealt with we may end up attracting more of the same. If we can observe patterns in our relationships, we may see that our present and past relationships involve binding ties that remain, even when we wish to move on. Learn how to recognise the manipulative or sweetly corrosive partner, the family dynamics that make Christmas and other get-togethers hell, the nightmare boss. And learn what you can do to leave these painful, destructive patterns behind.
About Avril Carruthers
Avril Carruthers, transpersonal psychotherapist and author of Let Your Past Go and Live, holds regular workshops and has been in practice for over 20 years.
Freedom from Toxic Relationships by Avril Carruthers was quite an interesting read for a nonfiction self help book. Carruthers explains the various forms of relationships that we can expect to encounter in our lives and through this identification, just how to deal with them. By reading the book, I was able to identify a number of people throughout my life who would be classed as a toxic relationship in my life. It is a shame that I didn’t have this book thirty years ago as I could have taken a completely different path by identifying these and dealing with them effectively. It happens without our being aware of it. Toxic connections can create misery because often we feel so bound by shared history, or maybe our perceived duty, that we believe we cannot, or should not, let go. We feel too attached and it can limit our expression of who we are
I highly recommend this book for anyone who has people in their lives that are counterproductive and want to know how to best deal with them.